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About O. J. Toks

O. J. Toks is a husband, son, brother, minister, speaker, Christian Inspirational Hip Hop Artist, Producer and author of Rejected for a Purpose: How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your Destiny. He has written for Essence Magazine, been a guest on 89.3 KSBJ, and is the president and founder of O. J. Toks Ministries, which presents While You Are Single, an online ministry for Single Adults. He loves to play soccer, listen and dance to music, and watch movies. His mission is to inform and inspire people to find and fulfill God's purpose in every aspect of their lives.

Rejected for a Purpose Part 1

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It was around the beginning of 2003 when I first entertained the idea of moving to Houston, Texas from Richmond, Virginia. After much prayer and a series of incidents, I reached the conclusion that the relocation was something that God wanted me to do. Prior to moving to Houston, despite reasonable attempts to find a place to live, and a job to make ends meet, I was not able to secure a job and a place to stay in Houston, before I took the plunge.I didn’t let those setbacks hinder me from moving to Houston. I decided to pull an Abraham and go any way. When I lived in Virginia, I worked for a company in their IT department. It was a support role. After I moved to Houston, God provided a place to stay. I was unable to secure an IT position and ended up getting a job as an entry level unarmed security officer. While I was grateful that I landed a job, I was disappointed that it meant my income went down approximately $7700 per year.

I expected that moving to Houston in obedience to God’s direction would land me a better job, a better life, and usher me closer to His plan for my life. With the dip in income, I felt that the opposite was happening. Despite numerous attempts at finding IT jobs, I was not hired. I was rejected. I also applied for customer service jobs, data entry jobs, and other jobs but no one hired me. The only job I found was a security officer position. Thank God for security officers. I thanked God that I received a job. Notwithstanding, in the context of my previous job, experience, and income, the demotion only reinforced my feelings of rejection.

Despite the setbacks, I kept my faith and trust in God. God knew best, and I believed that my circumstance was necessary to prepare me for where He was taking me. 6 months after I began working as a security officer in a prestigious building in the downtown business district of Houston, the building management terminated my employer’s contract. They gave the protection of the building to another security company. Since the security company I worked for lost the contract, this meant that I was without a job in that building, and I was rejected again.

I still kept my faith. I still trusted God, believing that He was up to something great. Fortunately, the company I worked for had contracts in other buildings in the downtown area. They immediately transferred me to another building, which was just 2 blocks away from the building that I previously worked as a security officer. In my new building, I worked as a security officer for close to a year and a half. Meanwhile, I had applied to other jobs, but still no breaks. I felt like I was going to be an entry level unarmed security officer for a while.

One morning, seemingly out of the blue, I recieved a phone call. It was from a recruiter out in Arizona. She found my resume online and had an IT support position for me. I told her I was interested, and she set me up for an interview. After three interviews, I landed the job. Thank God! Remember that when I left Virginia, I lost close to $7700 in income per year? Well, when I landed the IT job, it gave me close to $7700 per year more than I earned in Virginia. But this is the kicker: the company that I was going to be working for as an IT support person, was right in the new building where I was providing security.

In essence, being rejected from the previous building was setup by God to position me in the new building, where I worked for a year and a half. So, for about 18 months, I was close to my breakthrough and did not even know it. I did not know that God didn’t just hold me back from those other jobs; He was holding me back for a specific job, in a specific place, at a specific time. He was keeping me in a particular place because He had something for me there.

I don’t know what kind of rejection you are facing. I don’t know who has ignored or overlooked you. I don’t know which companies have terminated your position. I don’t know how long you’ve been waiting on God to help you out with a job or a secret petition of your heart.

This I do know; your rejection is for a purpose. Keep your head up, be encouraged, and keep trusting God because He has something or someone better for you. When the time is right it will happen. Just don’t lose faith. Keep it, and walk in it. My experience has taught me that God uses your opposition to position you. He uses a setback as a setup.

Sometimes, God will hold you back in a certain spot. He will confine you to a certain area. He will hinder your progress to keep you in a certain place, so that when He drops the blessing…He won’t miss. God has targeted a blessing for a particular place. If God’s hindrances keep you in that place, guess what happens when the blessing hits its target? I’m sure you can use your imagination.

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Rejected for a Purpose Part 2

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How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your DestinyYou might be familiar with King Saul’s attacks against David. Saul was so intent on killing David that his attempts against David’s life caused David to seek asylum among the Philistines (1 Sam 27:1-2). David found favor with Achish, one of the Philistine commanders, and with Achish’s permission was able stay in an area of Philistine territory called Ziklag (1 Sam 27:6). The Philistines were gearing up to fight the Israelites and Achish invited David and his men to fight with them. David obliged (1 Sam 28:1-2). However, the other commanders of the Philistine army did not approve of David fighting with them. They feared that he would be a traitor, jeopardize their mission, and hand them over to the Israelites. So they rejected David from fighting with them (1 Sam 29).

David was disappointed but had no choice but to go back with his men to Ziklag. When they got back to Ziklag they found out that their homes had been raided and their families had been taken captive. David’s men were so distraught about the situation that they even considered stoning David. Despite the setback David encouraged himself and sought God. God gave him the green light to go after their families’ captors. David and his men went after them, caught up with them, defeated them, rescued their families and not only got back what was taken from his people, but also returned with their enemy’s possessions (1 Sam 30).

If we examine that story carefully we can learn some vital lessons about how God uses rejection to protect us. It was sad that David chose to live with the Philistines because of Saul’s attacks against him. Because of Saul’s rejection, not only did David choose to live with the enemy of his people, he was also willing to fight with the enemy against his people. The rejection he experienced from Saul caused him to make the enemy of his people his friend, and make his friend, his people, his enemy.

Unfortunately, that is sometimes the case with some people. Because of the rejection they experienced with the Sauls of their church, they’ve chosen to live their lives apart from God and befriended the Achish’s who are against God. Not only do some individuals who have succumbed to the bitterness of rejection left the Church to align with some who are against the Church, some have also chosen to fight against the church and its values. Interestingly, David was rejected from fighting with the Philistines. Other leaders of the Philistines who pulled more rank than Achish rejected David from fighting with them.

Despite David’s disappointment, the rejection enabled him and his men to get back to Ziklag on time to find out that their homes had been raided and their families had been captured. Had David not been rejected, he would have fought and killed his own people, and be way out of God’s will. He would have lost his family and his possessions, as it was likely that the people who captured them would have been long gone by the time they came back from war. He would have also lost the loyalty of his men, who would have probably killed him once they got back to find out that their families were gone and never to be recovered.

But because David was rejected, he was kept in God’s will by not fighting against His own people. He was kept in good standing with his men despite their brief but understandable anger against him. He was driven to seek God for direction, which helped them rescue their families, recover their possessions, and plunder their assailants. God gave them double for their trouble. Those were the purposes for which David was rejected. God does the same for us.

I acknowledge that sometimes we experience rejection from people of influence and leaders; whether in church, at home, at work, or in society. I also acknowledge that such attacks causes some of us to be offended so much so that we lose our faith, and begin not only to live apart from God, but live and hang out with the wrong crowd. If you are dealing with this predicament I want to encourage you not to respond that way. Even if you have, God can still get you back on track. Don’t be surprised if He uses the people that you’re not supposed to be hanging out with to accomplish this objective.

Just like God used rejection to protect, redirect and provide for David, God uses rejection for your protection, redirection and provision. He uses it to get you from fighting the wrong war to fighting the right war; the war for your faith, your family and His favor on your life. Even though the devil, the enemy, may have used the rejection of a friend, a leader, or a significant other to turn you away from God, God can use the rejection of an enemy, someone who is against God, to turn you back to Him and His purpose for your life.

Rejected for a Purpose Part 3

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All Sheilah Vance wanted to do was get her books published. But after numerous rejections from about 10 publishers and 25 literary agents, she decided to self-publish her own books. Considering the rebuff she received from publishers and agents, it is surprising that her first book, Chasing the 400 didn’t mean chasing the 400 publishers. And her second book Land Mines, referred to going through the land mines of divorce, and not the land mines of getting one’s book published.

All she wanted to do was become an author. But thanks to rejection, not only did she become an author she also became a publisher of authors. The rejection she experienced in the publishing industry inspired her to publish others who she knew had something helpful and relevant to say, but had been rebuffed too. She named her publishing company The Elevator Group. And the mission of her company is to help people rise above. Rejection promoted Sheilah Vance from author to publisher.

Usually when she receives a manuscript, because she is very busy and does not want to keep the manuscript’s author waiting for her response, she passes the manuscript to one of her employees for review. That person then determines if the work is something that Vance should look at. However, one day in October of 2009, something different happened.

Vance received a sample of a manuscript that was sent to her about a week earlier. The title of the work piqued her interest so much so that she did not pass it to someone else to review, but decided to read it herself. She fell in love with the manuscript because it encouraged and touched her heart. She wasted no time in replying to the author of the manuscript expressing her interest to publish his work.

The author agreed to her terms, a deal was struck, and his book is going to be published on September 1, 2010. The title of the book is Rejected for a Purpose: How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your Destiny. The author of the book is O. J. Toks. That’s how Sheilah Vance got my manuscript. But there’s a bit more to the story.

I had been working on Rejected for a Purpose for about 5 years. Within that time period my manuscript was overlooked by about 26 publishers and 66 literary agents. Using the grace and insight that God gave me in writing the book, I realized that those publishers and agents weren’t the ones appointed to publish the work. I believed that I was soon going to find the right publisher. It happened toward the end of October after I sent part of my manuscript to The Elevator Group.

Because of the rejections I experienced in trying to publish Rejected for a Purpose, I stopped soliciting publishers and agents for a long while between 2008 and 2009. Around the middle of August 2009 my contract was not renewed for a company I worked for. That meant I was out of a job. It also meant I was rejected…again. Immediately I felt that I had to use the time I was out of work, wisely. I was inspired to start seeking agents and publishers again, as new publishing professionals were always emerging. That was how I came across The Elevator Group. On September 1, 2010, the rest will be history in the making.

5 weeks after my previous employer bid me good riddance, they called me back for a special project. So, in retrospect I was rejected for the purpose of completing and sending Rejected for a Purpose to Sheilah Vance. I conclude that the temporary unemployment I experienced was time off for me to look for publishers and agents again. It paid off.

That is pretty much how God uses rejection for us. He uses it not only to help us fulfill our purpose, but help us fulfill it at the right time, and with the right person. Who would have thought that one of the elevators that God uses to help us rise above would be called rejection?