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O. J. Toks is a husband, son, brother, minister, speaker, Christian Inspirational Hip Hop Artist, Producer and author of Rejected for a Purpose: How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your Destiny. He has written for Essence Magazine, been a guest on 89.3 KSBJ, and is the president and founder of O. J. Toks Ministries, which presents While You Are Single, an online ministry for Single Adults. He loves to play soccer, listen and dance to music, and watch movies. His mission is to inform and inspire people to find and fulfill God's purpose in every aspect of their lives.

Be YOU-Nique Part 2

David was ready to fight Goliath. Saul gave David his armor to take on the giant. When David put on Saul’s armor, he felt weighed down. He could hardly move. That is what happens when we try to be like others. Our inability to be like them weighs us down. We feel immobilized because we can’t think, act, or do things like they do. That is the case because God did not create us like them. He created us to be unique.

Then Saul outfitted David as a soldier in armor. He put his bronze helmet on his head and belted his sword on him over the armor. David tried to walk but he could hardly budge. David told Saul, “I can’t even move with all this stuff on me. I’m not used to this.” And he took it all off.” (1 Samuel 17:38- 39 MSG)

We experience failure when we put on armor, gadgets, personalities or styles that are “suited” for others but not for us. If David had worn that armor to fight Goliath, he would have lost the battle before it started. Goliath would have fed him to the dogs. He would have been minced meat. But thank God David rejected being like Saul. He refused to proceed with a tactic that even Saul could not use. We should not reinvent the wheel; we should renovate it.

In any and every battle we need to be courageous; we need faith; we need hope; we need persistence and determination. However, how we apply those virtues does not have to be exactly like others. David needed an armor to fight Goliath. But based on his uniqueness, he did not need an armor of steel; he needed an armor of skill. Five smooth stones and a sling shot did not necessarily do the job. It was his shield of faith in God, the helmet of salvation that God “got his back,” and the sword of God’s Word in his mouth that God would help him prevail, that did the job. It was these armor that provided the support for David to catapult the stone that brought down Goliath (1 Samuel 17:40-50; Ephesians 6:10-14).

David rejected Saul’s armor because he had no experience with it. David had experience with his own armor—the same one he used to protect his father’s sheep from a lion and a bear, both of which he took out with faith in God’s protection. He applied his experience with the animals against Goliath and prevailed.

We are not experienced in being other people. Some of us are even inexperienced in being ourselves because we’ve exhausted lots of time and energy and suffered defeat by trying to be like others. We should be ourselves. We should take time to begin to discover and cultivate the gifts, talents, abilities and personalities that God has placed in us. We should begin to express our hearts. If we don’t, well, like I’ve been discussing throughout this book, rejection is hired to cause us to dig deep into ourselves and withdraw the things that have been lying dormant in us.

Friend, reject trying to be like others. In your own unique way, you’re beautiful. If you haven’t discovered that, just be-you-to-full.

1. O. J. Toks, Rejected for a Purpose (Paoli, PA: Elevator Group Faith, 2010), 240 – 241.

How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your Destiny

Be YOU-Nique

Don’t try to be like other people. Don’t try to do things like them. Be yourself. One of the reasons why some people are unsuccessful at who they are and what they do is because they try to be like others. We can only be successful at being who we are. We’re all unique individuals. Trying to be like someone else is like a duck trying to be a squirrel. This is impossible! Is it any wonder we often disappoint ourselves? 

Some of us have not even scratched the surface on how special we are. That’s because we’ve spent most of our lives chasing the wind by trying to be and do things like other people. Don’t get me wrong; we should learn from others. Their success should inspire us to make something of ourselves, and their mistakes should dissuade us from making nothing of ourselves. However, how we go about applying what we learn from other individuals does not have to be exactly like the way they applied their learning experiences. 

I’m not saying that we should reinvent the wheel; if need be, we should renovate it. Some people don’t feel good about themselves because they’ve been comparing themselves to others. That is why some people feel that they are not beautiful. It’s been said that beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. We need to be the beholder of ourselves. 

In order to be beautiful, you need to be-you-to-full. Be yourself to the fullest. Be the unique person God created you to be. You’re beautiful! Behold your beauty! Behold yourself! God’s masterpiece. You are God’s masterpiece because you’re a piece of the Master. Genesis 1:26 revealed that God created you like Himself. You are a piece of God—the Master’s piece.

1. O. J. Toks, Rejected for a Purpose (Paoli, PA: Elevator Group Faith, 2010), 239 – 240.

How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your Destiny