Category Archives: While You Are Single Podcast
The Matchmaker
Many single adults are trying to find a mate. Many of them have found this task daunting. Consequently they have sought different avenues to accomplish their quest. These avenues include friends, prayer, multiple dates, speed dating, online dating, matchmaking apps and professional matchmakers just to mention a few. But how effective are these approaches? Are any of them adequate to help a single adult Christian who wants to get married, find a Godly spouse? I addressed these questions extensively in a series of videos titled “The Matchmaker.” Here is part 1:
Protecting Relationships from the Enemy
Relationships are precious. One of the saddest things in life is to lose the relationship you prayed so diligently to receive. In order to safeguard our relationships there are some things we need to do. Some of them are practical. Others are spiritual. Some of these protective measures require us to use common sense and some require us to solely rely on God’s grace.
We will successfully protect our relationships when we use practical and spiritual measures in tandem. I believe that there are 4 approaches to protecting relationships. 3 of these approaches are legitimate. The 4th approach is illegitimate. In the audio below I elaborate on all these approaches and discuss the measures we can use to safeguard our relationships.
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Are You Sure You’re in Love?
What is love? I once heard a celebrity say that love is when you close your eyes and you see the face of the person you love. What happens when you close your eyes again, but you don’t see the person’s face anymore? What happens when your eyes are wide open, but you don’t want to see the person’s face?
I’ve also heard that love is that feeling you get in your belly. You know that feeling. The sensation that I’ve heard some people say they feel in their gut when they are around the object of their affection. Sometimes I wonder if that feeling is gas. Nothing a little Pepto Bismol can’t take care of.
Yes, I understand the euphoria that often accompanies love. I also acknowledge that there is a romantic aspect of love. A part of love that is necessary for healthy and lasting, Godly relationships. But do feelings define genuine love? Or does genuine love define feelings? While I know that there is more to love than we can comprehend, I recently addressed the subject briefly in the While You Are Single podcast. You can listen to the three-part series below:
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Podcast of the Week: Moving Forward
Too often we let our past hinder our future. We let what’s behind us prevent us from receiving what’s before us. How can we move forward? What role does forgiveness have to do with this? And when we forgive, do we really forget? You can find out more by listening to the podcasts below.
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You can subscribe to O. J. Toks’ podcasts on Itunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ojtoksministries/id857227884?mt=2&ign-mpt=uo%3D4
Unfinished Business
Before God can pair anyone with a mate, He has to “pre-pair” the person for the mate. Sometimes He prepares by first, making repairs. After He repairs, then He re-pairs (pairs the individual again). 5 steps can be deduced from God’s preparation process. Each step is vital. Skip a step, and you can miss out from God’s best.
Each step enables you to make progress toward God’s plan for your life. But missing or not completing steps can limit you from receiving all that God has for you. God does not, just utilize this process to get people married, He also uses it to help people fulfill their destinies. I spoke extensively about these 5 steps recently. The teaching is in the audio below:
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