How do you know if a particular guy or lady is the one you’re supposed to marry? I’ve heard different things over the years about how you can make that decision. And for most people, saying that “you’ll just know” doesn’t cut it. I addressed this issue extensively in the video below. Check it out and feel free to share with others who need this information.
Finding the Right Person
Beneath the Surface
A few years ago a friend and coworker of mine asked me to check out a video. The video was about a wild boar that was bracing to defend itself against a pack of wild dogs. The boar was at the edge of a river, drinking water. The pack of wild dogs, about eleven of them where waiting for it to come out from the edge of the river. The scene was like an old school western. I could have sworn that I heard the soundtrack of The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly playing in the background. The difference though, was that no good came out of this situation. It was all bad and ugly.
While the boar drank water it simultaneously watched the wild dogs. They were staring each other down. While watching this scene play out for a few minutes, my friend nudged me to look more closely at what was happening. That’s when I saw it. I gasped. I didn’t even notice it. While the hog was busy and probably freaking out sizing up his would-be assailants, a crocodile had crept up just a few inches beside it. I’ve heard about being between a rock and a hard place, but never between a pack of wild dogs and a crocodile.
The boar took a few steps forward to sip some more water, and that was its last movement before its life was snuffed out in seconds. Like a snake, the reptile leaped out of the water, seized the boar’s neck between its jaws, and dragged it down below the surface of the water. The attack happened so fast that if you were watching the boar and the wild dogs prior to the assault, and then turned away for a few seconds and then turned back, you wouldn’t have known anything happened, except for the dwindling ripples of water.
We are like the wild boar; not because we’re wild or overweight, but because we often find ourselves caught between tough situations. Unfortunately a lack of discernment often causes us to only see one issue among others. And often times this issue is not the main issue. This problem we’re faced with often seems like the biggest deal. The boar saw eleven wild dogs. Little did it know that its demise was going to be caused by one crocodile.
Many times what we think is the issue is not what derails us. It’s the issue we’re not even aware of. It’s the one lurking underneath the surface of the hype distracting us. It’s the unknown enemy, which suddenly snaps at the neck of our ignorance and takes us down. This is the devil’s strategy: distracting us with things that are prominent, yet, taking us out with something less visible but imminent.
As we address the myriad issues of life, like we should, let’s not get distracted with things that appear to grab the headlines and allow the enemy to creep up and cause us to end up with flat-lines: in our families, careers, marriages or relationships. Let’s pray for discernment and wisdom to see and address the real issue. I encourage you to trust God and not lean on your understanding of what you think you’re facing. God knows all. Trust Him to do this for you:
This time you will not have to leave in a hurry; you will not be trying to escape. The Lord your God will lead you and protect you on every side – Isaiah 58:12 GNT
Looking for Love in All the RIGHT Places
Could it be that the saying looking for love in all the wrong places has contributed to people ending up looking for it in the wrong places? How about we start looking for it in the RIGHT places. In doing so we can position ourselves to really find true love. I addressed this extensively in the video below. Enjoy and share.
Redirection
Beginning with the video below, I addressed how God uses redirection to lead us to our destiny. Enjoy the series and share with your friends.
Who Stole My Fruit?
Why are some relationships fruitful, while others are not? Why do some relationships work, and others don’t? The parable of the sower narrated by Jesus may give us a clue. I elaborated on this story in the video below, particularly as it relates to relationships. I encourage you to watch it. And as you do so, be open to receive whatever God is trying to convey to you. And feel free to share with others that you know can benefit from it.
Mixed Signals
Have you ever dealt with mixed signals in relationships? They can be very frustrating. In the video series below I addressed this subject matter extensively . Enjoy and share.
What Men and Women Need in Relationships
It’s been said that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. The basic idea is that men and women are different. So much so that they have have fundamentally different needs in relationships. I addressed this beginning with the video below.
It’s Not Complicated
Relationships are complicated. At least, that’s what most people say about them. But, are they? Are relationships really complicated, or do we complicate relationships? Check out the video series below to hear my discussion on the topic.
Baffle of the Sexes
You’ve probably heard this before: men and women are different. Yes they are. In order for men and women to get along, especially in relationships, it’s in their best interest to understand and embrace their differences. Starting with the video below, I addressed some basic differences between men and women, and how we can use them to get along with each other.