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A Bow to Tebow

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Believe me, I tried not to do it. I tried to stay away from jumping on his band wagon; but I just couldn’t help it. Although a litany of naysayers, haters, and sports antagonists—oops, I mean sports analysts, were ripping him apart, I chose to align with the plethora of people who admired and supported “team” Tebow. For years, right from his successful stint at Florida, I heard about Tebow but I didn’t get caught up with his fame. However, the intense scrutiny on him drew me to his side.

Despite the blatant progress made by the Denver Broncos, sports analysts after analysts kept saying that Tebow was not an NFL Quarterback. He can’t throw. He’s not good enough. Yeah, they won, but it’s the defense; it’s the coach; it’s the other team messing up, and blah blah blah. Yet, Tebow torpedoes; and so does his team, toward the top of their division. The criticisms hurled at Tebow sound all too familiar.

They remind me of my book, Rejected for a Purpose: How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your Destiny. In it I discuss 8 benefits of rejection. Tebow does not only personify the theme of my book, but he also exemplifies someone who takes advantage of one of the benefits. One of the benefits rejection inadvertently brings into your life is inspiration. When people try to make you insignificant, minimize your contributions, focus on your weaknesses, in addition to telling you that you can’t have it, you can’t do it, and you can’t be it, you’re being rejected.

Funny enough, God loves rejects! And He uses them to confound the wise. Rejection humbles you. However, humility is a magnet for God’s grace. Amongst other things, God’s grace is His favor and power. Therefore, when you’re rejected the setback sets you up to receive God’s divine enablement to help you do what you could not do on your own strength. Do you know anyone who seems to be enjoying a lot of favor right now?

If you don’t know let me give you a clue: His initials are “T-T.” And this does not stand for temper tantrum. People like Tebow are inspired by rejection. All his life, people have doubted him. But the naysayers only fueled in him the passion to succeed, to persevere, to win. In my book, I mentioned 3 ways to respond to rejection. Tebow responds with all 3. But let me highlight one of his responses. His faith.

Usually when we experience rejection we lose faith in ourselves. The rebuff coerces you to think less of yourself since others devalue you. Some even lose faith in God. Sometimes people reject us from relationships because of our REALationship with God. Hmmm, sounds familiar doesn’t it? One way to deal with rejection and get a great deal out of it is not to lose your faith but to hold on to it. If you do not already have faith I encourage you to reach out for it by reaching out to God. He is close to those whose hearts are broken and have a crushed spirit (Ps 34:18). He will revive you. He will revitalize you. And He will restore, replenish, and rev you up for your life’s purpose(s). These might not happen overnight, but they will happen.

There are at least 4 reasons why people criticize you. 1) People criticize you because you’re not like them—you’re different. 2) People criticize you because you’re not with them—you’re not in their group. 3) People criticize you because you’re not for them—you disagree with them. 4) People criticize you because they feel you took something from them—you got the break; they didn’t—they’re hating.

Regardless of why people criticize and reject you, encourage yourself and keep moving forward. If you’re being ostracized because you’re different, remember that sometimes you have to be different to make a difference. If you’re snubbed because you’re not with a group, remember that God is with you. If someone gives you the cold shoulder because you disagree with them—without being disagreeable, keep your head up and agree with God. If people drank too much “hatorade” and are on a hater-raid on you because you got blessed and they didn’t, it’s ok. Take the high road. Remember this quote from Bishop T. D. Jakes, favor ain’t fair.

After putting their feet in their mouths and eating quite a few humble pies, some of the experts are coming to terms with the fact that since Tebow was given the thumbs-up to be the starting Quarterback for the Broncos, something miraculous started happening. The Broncos went from 4 losses and a win to 7 wins and a loss. At the time of this writing they have a record of 8 wins and 5 losses, total. Sports experts can’t explain why the chips are falling Tebow’s way; but they can’t deny that he is a winner, either. Some say it’s the Broncos defense. Some say it’s their coach. Some say it’s their opposing teams messing up. Some say it’s Tebow. Tebow says it’s team work. What do you say?

Practically, I believe it’s a combination of all of the above. Notwithstanding, there is an underlying force that allows all those factors to gel. I believe there is a main ingredient in the Broncos’ stew of success. And Tebow has the recipe. What is the recipe, you ask? Well, I tell you what one sports radio commentator said. He said that Tebow was not responsible for the success of the Broncos. I don’t know if he was being sarcastic or if he was really serious, but he said that Jesus Christ is the reason why the Broncos are successful. He said there is a power helping the Broncos. And he said on secular radio that folks need to go on their knees and make sure that they are right with Jesus. Wow!

From here on out regardless of what happens with the Broncos, there is something special about Tebow. Whether people may want to acknowledge it or not, God has His hands on him. And He is using him for purposes bigger than touch downs and successful goal kicks. God can do the same with you and any rejection you experience.

Rejected for a Purpose Part 1

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It was around the beginning of 2003 when I first entertained the idea of moving to Houston, Texas from Richmond, Virginia. After much prayer and a series of incidents, I reached the conclusion that the relocation was something that God wanted me to do. Prior to moving to Houston, despite reasonable attempts to find a place to live, and a job to make ends meet, I was not able to secure a job and a place to stay in Houston, before I took the plunge.I didn’t let those setbacks hinder me from moving to Houston. I decided to pull an Abraham and go any way. When I lived in Virginia, I worked for a company in their IT department. It was a support role. After I moved to Houston, God provided a place to stay. I was unable to secure an IT position and ended up getting a job as an entry level unarmed security officer. While I was grateful that I landed a job, I was disappointed that it meant my income went down approximately $7700 per year.

I expected that moving to Houston in obedience to God’s direction would land me a better job, a better life, and usher me closer to His plan for my life. With the dip in income, I felt that the opposite was happening. Despite numerous attempts at finding IT jobs, I was not hired. I was rejected. I also applied for customer service jobs, data entry jobs, and other jobs but no one hired me. The only job I found was a security officer position. Thank God for security officers. I thanked God that I received a job. Notwithstanding, in the context of my previous job, experience, and income, the demotion only reinforced my feelings of rejection.

Despite the setbacks, I kept my faith and trust in God. God knew best, and I believed that my circumstance was necessary to prepare me for where He was taking me. 6 months after I began working as a security officer in a prestigious building in the downtown business district of Houston, the building management terminated my employer’s contract. They gave the protection of the building to another security company. Since the security company I worked for lost the contract, this meant that I was without a job in that building, and I was rejected again.

I still kept my faith. I still trusted God, believing that He was up to something great. Fortunately, the company I worked for had contracts in other buildings in the downtown area. They immediately transferred me to another building, which was just 2 blocks away from the building that I previously worked as a security officer. In my new building, I worked as a security officer for close to a year and a half. Meanwhile, I had applied to other jobs, but still no breaks. I felt like I was going to be an entry level unarmed security officer for a while.

One morning, seemingly out of the blue, I recieved a phone call. It was from a recruiter out in Arizona. She found my resume online and had an IT support position for me. I told her I was interested, and she set me up for an interview. After three interviews, I landed the job. Thank God! Remember that when I left Virginia, I lost close to $7700 in income per year? Well, when I landed the IT job, it gave me close to $7700 per year more than I earned in Virginia. But this is the kicker: the company that I was going to be working for as an IT support person, was right in the new building where I was providing security.

In essence, being rejected from the previous building was setup by God to position me in the new building, where I worked for a year and a half. So, for about 18 months, I was close to my breakthrough and did not even know it. I did not know that God didn’t just hold me back from those other jobs; He was holding me back for a specific job, in a specific place, at a specific time. He was keeping me in a particular place because He had something for me there.

I don’t know what kind of rejection you are facing. I don’t know who has ignored or overlooked you. I don’t know which companies have terminated your position. I don’t know how long you’ve been waiting on God to help you out with a job or a secret petition of your heart.

This I do know; your rejection is for a purpose. Keep your head up, be encouraged, and keep trusting God because He has something or someone better for you. When the time is right it will happen. Just don’t lose faith. Keep it, and walk in it. My experience has taught me that God uses your opposition to position you. He uses a setback as a setup.

Sometimes, God will hold you back in a certain spot. He will confine you to a certain area. He will hinder your progress to keep you in a certain place, so that when He drops the blessing…He won’t miss. God has targeted a blessing for a particular place. If God’s hindrances keep you in that place, guess what happens when the blessing hits its target? I’m sure you can use your imagination.

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