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About O. J. Toks

O. J. Toks is a husband, son, brother, minister, speaker, Christian Inspirational Hip Hop Artist, Producer and author of Rejected for a Purpose: How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your Destiny. He has written for Essence Magazine, been a guest on 89.3 KSBJ, and is the president and founder of O. J. Toks Ministries, which presents While You Are Single, an online ministry for Single Adults. He loves to play soccer, listen and dance to music, and watch movies. His mission is to inform and inspire people to find and fulfill God's purpose in every aspect of their lives.

Nine Eleven Part 1

Usually when we think of 911 we think of the tragic events that took place on September 11, 2001. Our hearts still go out to the families of those that passed that day. We also continue to honor all those that met their untimely demise while they were trying to rescue others. May God’s grace, peace, and love comfort their families during this time.

For some of us 911 is also the number we dial during an emergency. Though, having these significances in mind, I’ll like to address this number from a slightly different perspective. My emphasis is on the number, and not on the event that left an indelible mark in American history. I’m going to be discussing the numbers, 9 and 11 from the perspective of God’s purposes for our lives.

The Number 9

I’m going to be highlighting some things that the numbers, 9 and 11, represent. The information I share regarding these numbers do not in any way suggest that the numbers do not represent other things. Having said that, here are four things that the number 9 represent:

a. Birth – A woman usually carries a baby for nine months and gives birth to him or her.

b. Death – Jesus died in the 9th hour.

And about the ninth hour (three o’clock) Jesus cried with a loud voice, Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani?—that is, My God, My God, why have You abandoned Me [leaving Me helpless, forsaking and failing Me in My need]? And Jesus cried again with a loud voice and gave up His spirit (Mat 27:46 & 50 AMP).

It seems like the number 9 representing death contradicts it representing birth. But this is not the case. 9, representing both death and birth is actually complementary and not contradictory. Death precedes transformation. To live in the Spirit we die to the flesh. The Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made us free from the law of sin and death (Romans 8:2). When we die we’re not totally obsolete; rather, we move into a new dimension. We are transformed. The Bible says that if anyone is in Christ, old things have “passed away” (death) and all things have become new (birth) (2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV). Jesus went through death to give us the new birth.

Apparently birth and death happen simultaneously. First a child is conceived, then develops in the womb, and then is birthed into the real world while he or she simultaneously dies/separates from the womb. Once the baby is birthed into the real world, the child begins to die/age. At old age the person dies from the earth and hopefully birthed into heaven—a new dimension. At death a person leaves earth to spend eternity with or apart from God. Birth and death are two processes that we all go through to grow and be transformed into the image of Christ and fulfill our purposes.

c. Prayer Time – The Ninth hour was a customary time of prayer. This does not take away from the fact that we can pray at any time.

Now Peter and John were going up to the temple at the hour of prayer, the ninth hour (three o’clock in the afternoon) (Acts 3:1 AMP).

d. Vision Time – Cornelius received a vision in the 9th hour. This does not mean that we can’t receive visions from God at any other time.

There was a certain man in Caesarea called Cornelius, a centurion of what was called the Italian Regiment, a devout man and one who feared God with all his household, who gave alms generously to the people, and prayed to God always. About the ninth hour of the day he saw clearly in a vision an angel of God coming in and saying to him, “Cornelius!” And when he observed him, he was afraid, and said, “What is it, lord?” So he said to him, “Your prayers and your alms have come up for a memorial before God. Now send men to Joppa, and send for Simon whose surname is Peter. He is lodging with Simon, a tanner, whose house is by the sea. He will tell you what you must do” (Acts 10:1-6 NKJV).

In the vision Cornelius was told to send men to get Peter who would tell him what to do. Obviously, Cornelius was seeking God for something, and his request was going to be fulfilled once he got in contact with Peter. Once again, the four things that the number 9 represent are birth, death, prayer and vision.

The Number 11

Two things that stand out about the number eleven are:

a. Last minute situations.

“For the kingdom of heaven is like a landowner who went out early in the morning to hire men to work in his vineyard. He agreed to pay them a denarius for the day and sent them into his vineyard. About the third hour he went out and saw others standing in the marketplace doing nothing. He told them, ‘You also go and work in my vineyard, and I will pay you whatever is right.’ So they went. “He went out again about the sixth hour and the ninth hour and did the same thing. About the eleventh hour he went out and found still others standing around. He asked them, ‘Why have you been standing here all day long doing nothing?'” ‘Because no one has hired us,’ they answered. “He said to them, ‘You also go and work in my vineyard.’ “When evening came, the owner of the vineyard said to his foreman, ‘Call the workers and pay them their wages, beginning with the last ones hired and going on to the first.’ “The workers who were hired about the eleventh hour came and each received a denarius. So when those came who were hired first, they expected to receive more. But each one of them also received a denarius. When they received it, they began to grumble against the landowner.” ‘These men who were hired last worked only one hour,’ they said, ‘and you have made them equal to us who have borne the burden of the work and the heat of the day.’ “But he answered one of them, ‘Friend, I am not being unfair to you. Didn’t you agree to work for a denarius? Take your pay and go. I want to give the man who was hired last the same as I gave you. The last shall be first and the first shall be last. For many are called and few are chosen (Matthew 20:1-16 NIV).

Have you ever heard of the eleventh hour? This represents something that is done in the last minute. Jesus gave the parable of a landowner who hired people to work on his vineyard for a day’s wage (a denarius). He hired some people early, some people around 9am (3rd hour), some people around noon (6th hour), some people around 3pm (9th hour) and some people around 5pm—the eleventh hour. The eleventh hour workers—the last people hired, got paid first and got paid the same as those that had been working all day.

The workers that had been working earlier were upset that they got paid the same wage as those that came in the eleventh hour. The landowner told them that they agreed to be paid a day’s wage, and they should not be upset that he chose to be good by paying those who came last the same wage he paid those who came first. Jesus gave this parable to illustrate a truth that permeates the way God works in our lives.

He said the last shall be first and the first shall be last. This statement though means different things to different people at different times. However, in the context of what Jesus was saying in this passage, Jesus was saying that those that come last will be blessed as much as those that came first. God does not bless you based on how long you serve Him, but based on if you serve Him. Whether you came in the first hour or eleventh hour, you have access to all that God has to offer you just as much as anyone else—even if others have been serving years before you showed up.

With this in mind, don’t expect any less from God because you are a new Christian. Don’t think you don’t deserve certain blessings because someone who you think is more spiritual, and serving God longer than you hasn’t experienced those blessings. You have access to God’s blessings just as much as anyone else regardless of when you became a child of God.

b. Breakthrough.

THESE ARE the words which Moses spoke to all Israel [still] on the [east] side of the Jordan [River] in the wilderness, in the Arabah [the deep valley running north and south from the eastern arm of the Red Sea to beyond the Dead Sea], over near Suph, between Paran and Tophel, Laban, Hazeroth, and Dizahab. It is [only] eleven days’ journey from Horeb by the way of Mount Seir to Kadesh-barnea [on Canaan’s border; yet Israel took forty years to get beyond it]. And in the fortieth year, on the first day of the eleventh month, Moses spoke to the Israelites according to all that the Lord had given him in commandment to them (Deut 1:1-3 AMP).

The children of Israel were 11 days away from Kadesh-Barnea, which was the southern border of Canaan. Canaan was the Promised Land. Therefore, the children of Israel were 11 days away from their breakthrough. In fact, the verse above reveals that Moses began to give them a recap of what got them to the point where they were about to get into the Promised Land. This took place on the first day of the 11th month of the fortieth year. In essence, it took place on the tail end or last part of the fortieth year.

911

Combining nine and eleven we can say that they represent:

1. Having a vision.

2. Praying for it to come to pass; praying for the vision to come and praying for it to pass, because you can’t just have any vision. This vision must come from God, and it usually does when we pray to Him. Cornelius was praying when a vision came to him.

3. Dying to ourselves.

4. In order to birth the vision.

5. And get our breakthrough.

6. Which usually happens at the last minute.

Purpose of REAL-ationships

According to internationally renowned author, teacher and leadership mentor, Dr. Myles Munroe, if you don’t know the purpose of something, abuse is inevitable. In other words, if you don’t know why something exists, you’re going to abuse it. You’re going to use it the wrong way because you don’t know what it is for. This is also true in relationships.

If you do not know the purpose of relationships, you will abuse them. You will get into the wrong ones, and you will have wrong expectations from them. Dr. Munroe is also fond of saying that if you want to know what a product is for, you need to find out from its manufacturer. The manufacturer gives you a manual on how it works and how to take care of it.

Since God manufactured relationships, we need to consult Him to figure out what they are for. He has also given us a manual to help us learn how relationships are supposed to function. His manual is—Em-manuel, Jesus, the Word of God.

Through God’s Word, the scriptures, we receive guidelines to help us understand God’s design for relationships. Recently I discussed 8 purposes of relationships. You can listen to this message and download it free, from the audio below.

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How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your Destiny

Finding God’s Will for Your Life

Over the years you may have heard people tell you that God has a plan for your life. They told you that He put you on earth for a reason. Yet, you do not have a clue of what that reason is. Or, maybe you do, but you don’t know how to accomplish it. Or maybe you are someone who has tried to fulfill your God-given mission, but you keep falling on your face. And now you’re questioning whether you were called to what you were trying to accomplish.

Whichever case, don’t fret. Relax, and take a deep breath. In the audio below, I discuss extensively how you can find God’s will for your life. By the time you finish listening to the teaching, you will be at peace with your quest for God’s purpose for your life.

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The Monkey Trap

Recently, I spoke briefly on the monkey trap. The fascinating thing about this trap, is not that monkeys are trapped, but that monkeys can liberate themselves from the trap, but don’t do so. The reason why they are unable to free themselves from the snare, is the same reason why too many people are unable to release themselves from the traps of life and move forward. Listen to the audio below to get the full gist of my discussion.

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Just a Little Adjustment

A few years ago I was in my house, hungry, and looking for something to eat. I scanned my refrigerator to see if there was any food. I was delighted to spot a leftover. Suddenly I understood the wisdom of why Jesus said “gather up the fragments” (John 6:12).

I grabbed the food and placed it in my microwave. I turned the knob on the appliance to set the timer, and I hit “start.” Nothing happened. I tried again, but the microwave did not budge. I was upset. I was hungry, and the microwave chose the wrong time to call it quits. Frustrated, I left home to eat out.

The next day I drove to Wal-Mart to buy a new microwave. After I bought my new microwave, I brought it home and placed the box in which it was packaged, on the floor. I decided to disconnect the old microwave before I opened the box containing the new microwave. I reached toward the back of my old microwave to disconnect its power cable from the socket into which it was plugged. All of a sudden my microwave woke up. I was startled.

Apparently the reason why my old microwave did not work was because the cable was in an awkward position. All I had to do was wiggle its power cable and it would have worked. A little adjustment to the position of its cord would have caused it to function properly. This experience helped me realize that the solution to my microwave problem was also applicable to a few of life’s problems.

Sometimes we give up on relationships and things too quickly. Before we let go of people, jobs, or opportunities, especially those that have been faithful to us, we might need to make just a little adjustment to keep them. We don’t want to pay unnecessary prices and go through the inconvenience of getting something — or someone new, before we realize that it was for naught.

Paul wrote that we should be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another just as God through Christ forgave us (Eph 4:32). James also wrote that we should be slow to speak, slow to be angry, and quick to listen (James 1:19). In the heat of the moment we can make poor decisions that will cost us time, energy, and resources only for us to regretfully find out that our reactions were unnecessary.

Try as we might, there will be times that we’ll not be able to live in peace with people. Paul had this in mind when he admonished us to as much as possible live in peace with all (Rom 12:18). Aside from such exceptions it’s in our best interest to make little adjustments to maintain good people and opportunities in our lives. Let’s be slow to give up on them and quick to adjust to them — whenever possible.

The adjustment might be changing your perspective, your approach, or your position on a person or problem. Don’t give up too soon on a relationship just because, all of a sudden, it’s not functioning to your liking. Just a little adjustment to the situation, in your part, might do the trick. Perhaps wiggling the cable of understanding will help you resolve the issue.

Naturally, when we don’t see things clearly, or when objects are off focus on our sights, we obtain glasses, contacts, or undergo Lasik surgery to correct our vision. The focal lenses or optical surgery make little adjustments in our eyes to enable us see things the way they ought to be seen. God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and light for our paths (Ps 119:105). His Word is the lens from which we see things from God’s perspective. Scripture enables us to make the little adjustments necessary for us to stay on God’s best path for our lives. This is because scripture is designed to script your life.

 

Unfinished Business

Before God can pair anyone with a mate, He has to “pre-pair” the person for the mate. Sometimes He prepares by first, making repairs. After He repairs, then He re-pairs (pairs the individual again). 5 steps can be deduced from God’s preparation process. Each step is vital. Skip a step, and you can miss out from God’s best.

Each step enables you to make progress toward God’s plan for your life. But missing or not completing steps can limit you from receiving all that God has for you. God does not, just utilize this process to get people married, He also uses it to help people fulfill their destinies. I spoke extensively about these 5 steps recently. The teaching is in the audio below:

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Starting From Scratch Part 2

Last month I discussed how the success or failure of a relationship can be determined from its beginning. If you didn’t get to hear my discussion on the topic (Starting From Scratch Part 1), you can listen and download free, the entire message below.

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However, what happens to the person who had a false start in a relationship, and consequently was scratched from it? What happens to the individual who has been dismissed from a relationship? How can he or she get over the disappointment? Can God turn his or her despair into delight? Can He turn their lowest point into their turning point? The answer is a resounding, “Yes!”

In Part 2 of the message, Starting From Scratch, I focus on answering how a person can move on from the rejection they experienced in a relationship. I also discuss why the rebuff took place in the first place. The entire teaching is in the audio below:

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Starting From Scratch

I recently learned that the phrase starting from scratch was first used in the Sport, Cricket.[1] It simply means, begin from the beginning. The “scratch” in question is the marked white line from which sprinters start their run in track and field events. Often sprinters emphasize how important it is, to have a good start in their races. The same holds true in relationships.

This truth is reinforced when Jesus responded to His critics, the Pharisees, about divorce (Mark 10:2; Matthew 19:3). The religious leaders asked him if a man could divorce His wife. The first part of Jesus’ response to their plan of entrapment speaks volumes. Jesus said that from the beginning God made male and female. And for that reason a man would leave his parents and cleave to his wife, so that they could be united.

The Pharisees argued that Moses permitted divorce to take place (Deuteronomy 24:1). Though their intention was to get the Lord in trouble, their question somewhat reflects a reason why some relationships and marriages don’t work. They asked Jesus about how to end a relationship. Amongst other things, Jesus hinted that to have a successful marriage, one needs to focus on how to start it, not how to end it.

In a sense Jesus reveals that marriages will be successful when we start from scratch with God’s original plan for it. Relationships won’t go south if the couple in the relationship went NORTH first. Starting from scratch, if a couple does not have God in their relationship, the relationship is destined to be scratched.

Recently I spoke extensively on this topic. Here is the message below. Feel free to download and share with others.

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[1]The Phrase Finder, http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/start-from-scratch.html (accessed February 17, 2014).

It Furthers Your Cause

Every test that you have experienced is the kind that normally comes to people. But God keeps his promise, and he will not allow you to be tested beyond your power to remain firm; at the time you are put to the test, he will give you the strength to endure it, and so provide you with a way out. (1 Corinthians 10:13 GNB)

In the New King James Version, the last part of that passage reads:

but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you might be able to bear it.

In the above scripture, temptation also refers to trials or tests. The verse reveals that God will not let us go through any trial that we cannot handle. In addition, through the test, God will make a way of escape. …but with the temptation will also make the way of escape…. In other words, the very thing that was meant to imprison you is the thing that God uses to set you free. It’s what He uses as your way of escape—your liberation. What was meant to harm you, God uses to arm you—your provision.

Rejection did the same for Nelson Mandela. This prominent humanitarian was banished for his convictions. His cause was to abolish apartheid in South Africa. His efforts to thwart the racism against black South Africans landed him in a prison on Robben Island for 18 years. Despite the rejection, despite the incarceration and despite the depravation of his human rights, Nelson Mandela responded to his plight with faith, hope and love. In fact he wrote:

No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.

With that kind of attitude, is it any wonder that Nelson Mandela won the admiration and respect of his jailer, James Gregory? Mr. Mandela responded with forgiveness toward the man who worked for the establishment that put him in prison. Consequently, similar to how Paul influenced his jailer, Nelson Mandela influenced James Gregory. Nelson Mandela helped stir James Gregory in the right direction and became his lifelong friend. Also, just like Joseph rose from being a prisoner to a governor, Nelson Mandela went from prison to the presidency. He went from being an inmate to being an icon.

Nelson Mandela was banished for his convictions. Notwithstanding, the rejection he experienced furthered his cause. Mr. Mandela was instrumental in the abolishment of apartheid in South Africa. It cost him 27 years of his life, but it gained him and other black South Africans their freedom from institutionalized racism. It also gained him a Nobel peace prize and the honor of being the first truly democratically-elected President of South Africa.2 [1]



[1]O. J. Toks, Rejected For a Purpose (Pennsylvania: Elevator Group, 2010), 200 – 201. How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your Destiny